My idea of a “Perfect Mother’s Day” has changed over the last 8 years. Mother’s Day can be a day for celebration and a day for mourning.
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Each year, my husband asks me what I want to do for Mother’s Day, and each year my answer is a little different.
One year, I only wanted to play and snuggle with our daughter. That was only when I had one child, but I’ve learned the importance of using this day to my advantage since then.
Some years, I want projects finished. Other years, all I want is sleep and to not have to cook or clean. It seems I have a slightly different answer each year.
Now, I realize that I will never be able to go a whole day without cleaning. My husband is great, but his “idea” of cleaning is drastically different from mine! I’ve come to accept that and I am ok with that. This has led to how I want to spend my “perfect Mother’s Day” this year.
All I want for this Mother’s Day is 2-3 hours by myself to do whatever my little motherly heart desires!
And you know what?!
I got my wish this year! I am currently sitting on my deck with a glass of wine as I am typing this. (Side note, if you are a mom and enjoy wine, you need to check out these wine tumblers. They are amazing!) I am enjoying the blue skies, beautiful weather, and birds singing away. I have nothing to think about or worry about (who I am kidding?! Don’t all moms worry no matter what?) other than typing and enjoying myself. And it is glorious!
Don’t get me wrong, I love my children dearly and I love spending time with them. However, I am the default parent and my husband works long hours this time of year, which puts even more of the household responsibilities on me. It’s nice to have a little time to recharge.
I know that not everyone is able to get a break and I know that not everyone wants time away from their kids on Mother’s Day. And you know what? That’s ok!
I also realize that Mother’s Day isn’t easy for everyone. My mother-in-law passed away about 12 years ago and this holiday is always hard for my husband’s family knowing that he doesn’t have the option to celebrate Mother’s Day in person with her. It’s challenging, but I do like to be grateful for the time that she was around. I like to use this as a time to teach my children that we can still celebrate those that aren’t with us. My children can still make her a Mother’s Day card and we deliver the cards and flowers to her headstone.
My mom has all adult children and would give anything to spend all day with her adult children. We do go spend time with her, but it is never as much time as she wants.
I know some moms that haven’t heard from their children in years, and I know they would be happy with a phone call or a text message on Mother’s Day.
Mother’s Day can be a day for celebration, a day for mourning, or a little bit of both. I think the important thing to remember is that your “perfect Mother’s Day” will not be the same as anyone else’s and that’s ok.
So, to answer my question, is there a “perfect Mother’s Day”? I think it depends on your definition of “perfect”. No matter where you are at in your parenting journey, you can still have a great day.
I personally don’t think I could have asked for a better day this year myself. 2 hours of quiet time is all I need to be happy and refill my cup.
Do what you need to do today and what makes you happy today! Do your best to make today great and enjoy it!
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